Stop Battling, Start Thriving: How Changing Your Thoughts Changes Your Results
How Changing Your Thoughts Changes Your Results | Jo Renshaw Coaching
Do you ever find yourself feeling exhausted, stuck, or constantly overwhelmed, despite outwardly appearing successful? You’re not alone. Like many high-achieving women, you might be experiencing a draining internal battle. You juggle countless responsibilities—career demands, family commitments, personal ambitions—leaving little room for yourself. The harder you try, the more overwhelmed and exhausted you feel. When you are figuring out how to regain control of your life it can seem doubly frustrating and draining.
But what if this battle wasn’t about external circumstances at all? What if it’s actually about your thoughts; change your thoughts, change your life? In this blog we’ll explore techniques that will teach you how to stop feeling stuck in life, love and work.
Why Does Life Feel Like a Constant Battle?
Sarah (not her real name), a successful professional, felt exactly this way. She applied for multiple jobs, received rejections, faced uncertainty about finances, and felt emotionally drained. Her inner dialogue constantly whispered, "This is a battle." The result? She felt exhausted, overwhelmed, and stuck.
Journaling is a powerful way to uncover and shift limiting beliefs.
Does Sarah’s experience sound familiar? Like her, do you want to know how to thrive in midlife? The truth is, the feeling of being in a constant battle isn’t because of external circumstances. It's caused by how you’re thinking about those circumstances.
The Thought-Feeling-Action Cycle Explained
Your thoughts create your feelings, which then drive your actions and, ultimately, create your results. Let's break this down:
Circumstance: These are neutral facts, for example, applying for jobs or managing family life.
Thought: Your interpretation of these circumstances, such as "This is a battle."
Feeling: The emotion generated by your thoughts, like exhaustion or anxiety.
Action: How you behave as a result—overthinking, procrastinating, or avoiding decisions.
Result: Reinforcing the original thought and feeling, leaving you stuck in the same exhausting cycle.
Recognising this cycle is powerful because it gives you control to change it. Read more about how one client did that, in this blog The Transformative Power of Coaching
Changing your thoughts creates new results
Real-Life Example: From Exhausted to Energised
When Sarah recognised her thought pattern—"This is a battle"—she realised this thought was directly causing her exhaustion. Together, we reframed her thinking to a new empowering thought: "I help businesses thrive."
New Thought: "I help businesses thrive."
New Feeling: Energised and motivated.
New Action: She proactively engaged potential clients, refined her personal brand, and confidently made new business offers.
New Result: She began thriving, personally and professionally.
How to Regain Control and Start Thriving Today
3 Simple Mindset Shifts to Help You Thrive
Here are three practical ways you can start shifting your mindset today:
1. Recognise and Challenge Your Default Thoughts
Notice when you’re feeling exhausted or stuck. Ask yourself:
"What am I thinking right now?"
"Is this thought serving me or holding me back?"
Simply becoming aware of your thoughts is the first step towards meaningful change.
2. Choose Empowering, Bridge Thoughts
Instead of jumping to thoughts that feel unrealistically positive, try bridge thoughts—small, believable shifts:
"I’m finding out who I am."
"I’m open to discovering a new way."
"I'm choosing to believe things can improve."
Repeat these thoughts daily. Over time, they become your new default.
3. Start Practicing Today
Integrate a simple daily practice:
Morning: Pick one empowering thought to set your intention.
Throughout the Day: Notice your negative thoughts, gently redirecting to your empowering thought.
Evening: Reflect briefly in a journal. What shifted? What felt better?
When you change your thoughts, you change your life.
It's Your Turn to Thrive
You don't have to remain stuck in a cycle of overwhelm and exhaustion. You have the power to choose thoughts that uplift, energise, and propel you forward.
Changing your mindset with personal coaching for women is not just about feeling better—it's about fundamentally changing your results. If you’re ready to leave behind the exhausting battle and start thriving in your life and career, start today. You have everything you need inside you already.
Ready to take the next step? Click here to book a Discovery Call and let’s talk about how you can shift your mindset to create meaningful, lasting results.
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